No one wants a relationship with a girlfriend who allows insecurities blind her and cloud her decisions.
Everyone is insecure to some degree, of course. So one or two mild signs of insecurity are not enough to send you running away from her.
Having said that, however, it is still very important to know what to look out for in order to know whether your partner is insecure or not not.
Why you need to know if your partner is insecure
It is important to know if your partner is unduly or unreasonably insecure because most actions borne of insecurity have the tendency to negatively affect the way they relate with you, and ultimately affect the romantic relationship you have with such partner.
To know if your partner is insecure, here are signs you’ll see.
1. Undue jealousy
An insecure girlfriend gets jealous for no reason. If she has her way, such partner doesn’t want you looking at other members of the opposite sex, let along conversing with them.
She is in constant fear of being traded up for a better model. Because she doesn’t value herself and has low self esteem she isn’t confident that she can keep you, no matter how much assurance and reassurance you give her of your devotion to her.
2. Tries to belittle you
Bullying and belittling are part of the arsenal of an insecure person. To make themselves feel better they try and make others feel small.
Any babe in whom you notice any form of regular attack on your self esteem is insecure. Insecure people always want to drag you down to her own self-loathing level.
3. Demands an unsustainable level of validation
Of course, partners are meant to validate each other and use words of affirmation with each other. This is very important, and does not detract from the need to be self-assured and secure in one’s self without external validation.
However, when a partner’s demand for validation and assurance and reassurance becomes illogically high, it could be a sign of insecurity. It could mean that such person has no conviction of their own importance, value, importance etc, without the validation of other people.
4. Emotional blackmail
Emotionally healthy people need to derive satisfaction from many areas of life. A relationship is just one of those. A secure partner understands this is does not command 100% of your attention. Nor will they make you feel guilty if you do not give it.
5. Overly needy
They can’t be by themselves, or do anything alone. The constant need is there to be desired loved, pursued and fawned over.
If your partner is this kind of person, they likely have esteem and insecurity issues.